Savemymarr, you are a real inspiration in your honesty with your feelings and in being willing to go into their depths. It is so sad about your W's history with abuse in her FOO - and Cyrena is so right about her having to deal with it in her own time (which unfortunately may not necessarily end with her father's passing). The best thing you can do for her is to keep holding a safe space for her to express whatever feelings come up (i.e. daily dialogue!) and to make that daily decision spoken of in RV.
I hope you are attending all the post sessions, especially the one on forgiveness (my W and I are in the process of writing that one). After the posts, you get to write your own questions, and it would be so beneficial to be able to share your feelings - especially the anger and sadness.
