I think you've got this backwards. The real question is will he be able to live up to what you deserve.
One of the first things I read here is "Believe nothing of what he says and 50% of what he does". Well, if you are at all like me, you should apply that first part to you as well. You are hurt. That is totally understandable. You are probably depressed, shocked, sad and lonely. Again, totally normal emotions. Neither of you are thinking right, right now. I personally don't trust most of what I think. If I did I'd be even worse off. The difference between you and your H is that YOU are doing something about this. At a minimum you are here. That is good. Work towards internalizing the advice you receive. EVEN WHEN IT IS 100% COUNTER TO YOUR INTUITION AND EMOTIONS. Now as for that advise. . . . You do deserve better than this, but again you are hurt. That, IMHO is why the detachment process is so important. We're not saying to stop loving him, but we are saying build barriers, and put some distance between you two for now. Think of yourself as a doctor. Would you operate on your own child? Probably not. Does that mean you don't love him/her? Or course not. You are too close. Your M is the patient and you need to put enough distance between yourself and it to effectively operate on it.
Can you save you patient? That is unclear, but the more you do to communicate with your H now, the sicker your M will become.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
