Hey GK, would agree with Hutch's partner there. u assume that gathering intel = looking for a D. i beg to differ. there is one thing to gather info obsessively and another to corroborate that something is indeed going on. exposing does not = pursuing D. read Tupy and Harley. we can agree to disagree.
moreover detaching while seemingly signing off on A would be another extreme. there can be an infinite number of approaches. do not believe that the choices have to be so stark.
and TH is right also. if u know ur W is having A w/ OM and he is married/engaged then does not that person have a right to know? besides the sig other of the OM is often your biggest ally. u can squash the A right there. look at some of the other threads and u will see that that is often the case.
do not believe in all or none of: either detach or spy w/ D in mind.
