Sweetie, I know how you feel about being overwhelmed. Both my h and I are without jobs, me with a neuromuscular disease on top of it, the house is a mess, going to lose it.
It helps to not look at the big picture. Take things a little at a time.
And SA is right. Once you start getting past the anger, you will be amazed at what you can do. And you will feel good knowing that you did it.
I just want to give you a little something to think about as your son is about the age my son was when this started.
I know that you and he are close as are we. And I dont believe in hiding your feelings from your children. But, I tried really hard not to involve my son in how I was feeling regarding his father.
For two reasons. First of all, they are looking to you to feel secure. They certainly cant count on their fathers right now. You need to set the tone. And you dont want your son worrying about you. That's not his job.
The second reason is that by you telling him you feel abandoned and overwhelmed by his father's actions, you are critizing his dad. It may seem like he is in agreement with you, but, trust me, he is torn and confused.
I know that you wanted to talk about why you were upset. Maybe next time you can just apologize and say you were feeling tired and anxious without pointing any fingers.
In the long run, you want to keep their relationship as intact as you can. That's the most important thing.
So, I dont want you to feel like I am critizing you. I am not. I just want to help you avoid any problems in the future.
It's best to give your children the space to make their own decisions about what they feel.
Hang in there, sweetie.
One day at a time. One moment if you need to.
You are so much more capable then you give yourself credit for.
Take one thing that you need to address in the house and handle it.
You may want your h, but you dont need him.
Show your kids what their mom is made of. Show them how to handle life's problems. Be their beacon.
