I agree Kat. I think it also depends on who does the divorcing. Dottie, the DB counselor, said typically a person has been thinking about divorce two to three years before actually saying the words. By that timeline, STBXW has been thinking about this since 2001 or 2002 so she's had a long time to let me go.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6