I didn't want my friends and fam to feel badly about him, so instead of venting to them, I went online and started playing games, and then one thing lead to another....
Sometimes I would ask him to tell me when it would be a good time to talk about whatever it was I wanted to talk about. He never did.
Ssss...ouch. Yah. That's what I did too. Withdrew and hid. But unfortunately, withdrawing when someone dismisses you only helps to perpetuate that kind of cycle. Oh but I agree that no-one wants to nag. And no one ends up listening to a nag either. But - everyone has a right to stand up for themselves and ask to be heard if they're upset about something.
Have you ever read any good books on self-esteem SOA? Before I started therapy and came to this board, I actually loathed the idea of them. But once I started reading... I couldn't stop. It helped me regain my self-esteem so much. (don't get me wrong... I still wobble a lot and flub... but I'm miles ahead of where I was a year ago) I'd be happy to suggest some if you're interested?
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I cannot complain for not receiving from others, that which I've never asked them for.
