I'm more cautious about playing hardball here. If your wife GF is not playing such games, why would you be?
You know you are going to be alright no matter what happens, and you will roll with whatever comes, I think, so the question becomes has she re-committed to your marriage R? Is she all-in?
I was thinking about the actor Patrick Swayze just now as an example of how there is no forumula for these things. Patrick Swayze was married to his wife in 1975 and until his death in 2009.
Patrick Swayze once said in an interview that he and his wife had fallen out of and back in love with one another three times that he could remember. I think he understood the dance that a marriage can be. Another famous quote of his was, "If you want to screw somebody up, give them exactly what they want". There's the nugget, I think.
If you let go, dropped the rope, and your wife GF is working hard at rebuilding your marriage R, then it could be a mistake to move out. It doesn't mean you roll over and stop letting her work for the M R because that would be a mistake too. You both have to be working for this M R or it's time to let go, IMO.
You know your wife GF, she knows you, so where are you in the whole dance... honestly?
Sorry, skipped over this under bombardment.
I made this more accurate for you.
Just answering your question despite the sudden change in my qualifications to be in divorcebusting forum.
Answer to your question: I am polkaing in circles, learning how tango and not waltzing away.
An old couple once was asked about the success of their long marriage. The old man said: "It's simple, we never fell out of love at the same time."
