Oh another thing...I know my writing is not the best when trying to convey the true tone of a conversation but this was my daughters own words on the subject when I told her that seeing her mother was "making my heart sick." I told her that I was not trying to be mean to Mom but that is was not good for me to see her and she said, "That is what divorce is. Mom should know that." SHE GETS IT. Even my D8 understands that I should not be "friends" and getting small gifts, blah,blah.
I don't think I made anything worse at all. I am not trying to save my marriage any longer(we are divorced already)or our friendship. I can make new friends.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
How confusing is that for the kids of divorce who have an enternal hope for their parents to get back together?
Yes! My daughter still has hope for her family. Just last week D8 told me that Mommy was going to bring a cupcake to my apartment but she didn't think I would be home. She(D8)has called me on the phone before to tell me that Mom was crying about something D8 said and she thought that meant that her Mom still loved me. This poor girl will never totally lose hope that her parents still love each other and I wonder if her Mom told her this news to try to get her to lose that hope.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
The symphony date with the salsa dancer was fun! We will be seeing each other again next monday. While I was chatting with her I got a text out of the blue from the last woman I dated shortly. Oh man, I am no good at juggling women but maybe that is a 180? LOL
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Tough thing on the kids. When we split up it was really hard on D11. She was always probing STBXW to see if there was any chance. She gave up before I did though and she just gets quiet and sullen when anything D or R related comes up.
D8 enjoyed the separation at first. She loved having two places to live. Lately, she's been talking about the D a lot, drawing pictures of the four of us together. I think the hope is dying in her now.
Good thing on the dates. I finally got the courage to ask a couple of women out two weeks ago to a big event I was invited to. They both had plans and I didn't get the impression I shouldn't ask again so I'm looking around for something cool to go to.
Me: 47, Ds 17-13, D final 6-11 http://tinyurl.com/yk4e2tz http://tiny.cc/thread2 http://tinyurl.com/ydtphqu http://tinyurl.com/thread4 http://tinyurl.com/3sm78k6 http://tinyurl.com/thread6
Clinging, that is what I did...I got 2 free tickets to the symphony and I asked someone that I knew would appreciate it. The online date thing is not working for me though. I do much better in the real world! Remember this, for every 10 women you ask, 2 or 3 will say yes!
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Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
X texted to ask if my daughter and I were going to D group and I answered, "yes" no other communication. I dropped D8 off at the house like normal but this time I stayed in my car and watched as she went inside. Then I drove off. No contact at all with X. This could work out very well for me. I do feel bad for my kids but I need something to change for me.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
