As for your post, it sure didn't sound like you were interested in saving a relationship!
Most men who have the least success with reconciling say those things when I recommend something. I find it interesting that you would say I said something uncalled for, and yet you don't take the same strong stance on a woman who cheats on a man and say to him that what she did was uncalled for AND UNACCEPTABLE....
The men I have observed over many years that have the best chance of reconciling are the ones who took the "I don't need this and am walking the other way" approach... I have seen it time after time after time, that the woman who cheats ends up chasing the BS if he tells her he wants nothing to do with an unfaithful woman.
Have you seen something differently than that? If so, can you point me to all the success stories of the men who took the I will hang in there whiile you decide approach?
Go read Puppy Dog Tails.. (Chocolateyes)..
For around THREE years he was on her haning in there hoping the old I will just keep on loving you approach would bring her around...
It was ONLY when he told her he was done and wanted a divorce and started seeing other women that she wanted him back. He then REJECTED her for awhile. She then begged, pleaded and cried and chased him until he was convinced it would NEVER happen again and that she had learned HER lesson. The whole time it was about HER. She kept allowing him to think it was HIS fault and about him. That is typical of a cheating wife. Don't allow it.
His experience is common in the men I have observed over the years as well as my own personal experience with women. The man who CAN walk away, is the one the woman longs for. The man who hangs in there rarely gets back her respect. She secretly doesn't respect herself, so subconscously doesn't respect him. She thinks, "If I don't even love myself, there HAS to be something wrong with HIM if HE loves me and I don't love or respect myself. She deflects her guilt on him if he hangs in there. That giver her the perfect excuse to keep from looking and herself. Once he lets to, she can no longer blame him for her problems.. Shazam.. She then wakes up and wants him..
