Can I do that now? If I blow her off now she will just say that I am flip-floppy and she hated that when I did it. You know hot and cold. For the last week we have been talking about how we got here and how to fix it.
Can I just say right now, hey you cheated on me and now you need to figure it out and call him?
Rondo,
I do WANT you to know that I am on here to HELP you to win her back. I have been doing this for quite some time now and my experience and observations have shown that taking the route you seem to be on doesn't work well. Twenty some years and many threads later haven't changed my stance. I remember you from years ago. I remember IMP. Neither of you got your wife back. That means what you did was not successful with reconcilitation. So you want to try the same thing AGAIN? I call that silly. Don't you? So I don't take much stock in IMP trying to preach to me about what I should and shouldn't say or do. I am still here and he has come and gone.
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Can I do that now? If I blow her off now she will just say that I am flip-floppy and she hated that when I did it. You know hot and cold. For the last week we have been talking about how we got here and how to fix it.
Can I just say right now, hey you cheated on me and now you need to figure it out and call him?
Your answer...
"Yes, I guess I am flip flopping again. However, I HAVE DECIDED that I will NOT be with a woman who can't be faithful to me. I can't believ I was even thinking about it for a moment,but I now know that is NOT what I want. So, yes I am flip flopping. Good for you that you won't have me around anymore to flip flop on issues. It certainlhy will not be on this one again. I want some time to think and agree that we should stay separated. I am not sure how I feel about you anymore right now anyway."
I have found that approach to work much better to win them back. Women respond better to a tough approach when they have been unfaithful. They don't respect you if you can't stand tough. They try to blame you for the affair. Don't allow it. You have to wait for THEM to do whatever it takes to win YOU back before you can tell her all the mistakes you know you made.
