I'm not going to watch my W starve... which she would if she didn't have any suppport from me.
I'm pretty sure the objective of this mediation and divorce is that she wants to stop being your wife, so you can stop calling her that.
She's not going to starve. Stop rescuing her. Don't be "nice" to somebody who is treating you like crap and who is divorcing you. You'll only confuse them.
This.
I know it probably makes you feel better to THINK she would "starve" without you, but really, she won't.