When a woman really loves you they don't tell you they need time, don't tell you they want to live seperately, don't tell you they want to explore their feelings. Etc. etc. etc... I know you should know better after all this time.. All that is woman "code" for I want to keep you in the wings while I pursue someone else that I am not sure wants me.
I don't know what it is for so many men on this site to fail to be able to say to a wayward woman who has had sex with another man.... "UNACCEPTABLE... That is unacceptable to me. If you want to live alone, fine by me, but you can NOT have me too. That isn't what I am looking for".
I usually agree with everything you say, Gucci, but I am gonna disagree with this one just based on situations.
Me and my wife had a very nasty 7 month separation and just recently (month or so ago) decided to try to work things out.
Key word being "try" because at this point I know personally I am not completely 100% sure we can, and I'm sure she isnt either.
We both have leases on apartments that run out in another 4 months, and while we have had discussions about living together again when our leases are up, we think its best right now if we don't just move back on together prematurely.
To be honest, I have never lived alone in my life before, and I am currently enjoying the freedom.
I can play video games in my underwear and eat cereal at midnight.
I will have the rest of my life to be told NOT to do that, so while I can, I am enjoying it.
Honestly... Don't you think its a bit risky for a LBS to just let a WAW move back in immediately, before it is even clear that the WAW is sincere?
I guess thats my main thing here... Until I am convinced that her and I can work this out, I don't really want the stress of having her move back in, and unfortunately, the possibility of dealing with her moving out... Again.
I look at living together again as a step in the process... And I don't think it should be one of the first steps. Far from it, actually.
