blgp - just skimmed a bit of your sitch. I'll take time to read more later. We seem to have a similar sitch. WH and I work at the same university and OW is a grad student here.
Personally, I would tell people the truth, too. I don't sugar coat anything if someone comes up to me. If he's going to lie, I am going to straighten it out. You don't have to go into it with everyone, but you can say that it isn't mutual and he left you. You can even say you suspect there is a OW without saying who it is. People will figure it out.
It seems my WH wants to get caught, too. It was so easy for me to figure things out, I was actually a little surprised. I don't understand the mentality of that, either.
Be strong! Take your time figuring out what is best for YOU.
H32 Me32 together:10 M:5 No kids ILYBINILWY 7/28/10 OW found 8/15 A exposed 8/31 I Move 9/3 Dark 10/1
