Hey Parts, My only concern with the 30 days is that at the end of it, Parts is going to either be moving toward his marriage or away from it.
I see your point, but again the 30 days wasn’t my idea. I’ve been against it. Why? Because I know that at the end of it, the most likely outcome is that nothing changes. This is her deadline and she thinks maybe something will change in her. But what can that be? If she says “I’ve decided and I want a divorce. I’m in love with the OM” what do I do? Do I still move to be near her?
Let me be clear I will work for my marriage. I will wait and I will work.
I have a lot of anger. But most of it is not from the A. It is the timing. I’m feeling left out to dry here. She has the luxury of being safe in her job and home. I have neither of those and must rely on her just to get home.
If I move towards my marriage and she doesn’t I must rely on her for my very subsistence. That is hard to take. Really hard. The rational side of my brain just does not want to do this.
Having said all this, it is my plan to return to work on my marriage. I’ve begun packing up my belongings and have told HR I am resigning. Next week I tell the movers to come and ship out things to Denver. I’m flying blind.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
