Yep, he's taking up time and energy (mental & emotional). Plus he doesn't respect you. Love yourself enougth to set a good healthy boundaries - where he stops and you start. Things will get worse when stress enters into the equation, if it isn't healthy now imagine big family events.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.