Not sure where to start or end, WAW? - #3

[john28]

Second mediation is tomorrow. I went and FINALLY visited with the bulldog lady b*tch attorney that was recommended by the Country Club. She is a freaking beast! She really has my side on this, told me I could expect to pay zero alimony, only 6-12 months of PSS and nothing else. She laid out all my finances and told me to go into mediation with that. She knew the mediatior and told me that it would be what the mediatior recommended anyways. And, if W didn't agree to it, to just drop her name with the mediator and she'd know I mean business.

Now, with all of that said, I'm not a dirtbag, and am wiling to pay 2 years of PSS, even though I only owe W half of that. I'm a good guy, and I'm not going to watch my W starve... which she would if she didn't have any suppport from me. She was a SAHM for 4 years and I at least owe her the crumbs that the attorney and mediatior said would be "nice" to pay.

I spoke to the L about the current situation with custody and she asked if I had any proof of the arrangement, which I do. It is an email with a calendar of the time/dates of exchanges. She said that is enough until this is settled in mediation. She was floored my W wanted more than 50% custody... said that in my county all the judges are progressive and in 98% of the cases award 50/50, so I have nothing really to worry about. She said that if W as uncomfortable with 50/50 that I could throw her a bone and "ease" our S4 into 50/50 over the next 6-12 months, but I'd want that in writing in the legal S.

So all in all, I'm feeling pretty empowered right now. Doing good.


GAL is going so very well...
Sunday I hung out with my football buddies and watched the Cowboys lose.
Monday I met up with my banker friend and watched the Vikings game at a local pub.
Wednesday night I went and golfed with my son - walked 9 holes, it was awesome. He got a par! At 4 years old!

Tonight, the nice girl that I met at the grocery store and I are going out for a round of golf and drinks at the golf club. Just as friends, but it is nice to be valued again in some regards besides myself.

Thursday I have my son again and I plan on playing baseball with him in the yard and ordering some pizza.

Friday night I'm going to dinner with a friend who is an English Professor at the University - good stimulating intelligent conversation.

Saturday I'm going pumpking picking with my son & W. We do it every year so it'll be fun.

Saturday night I'm going out again probably with my English Professor friend.

Sunday is football day with my son and buddies.

Monday after that is the State Fair - W, son and I are all going.

Tuesday I have my son again, going to golf with him...

... I'm SO busy! But, I'm feeling GREAT. I feel REALLY REALLY good! And, I'm not letting W walk all over my balls. This feels good.