Then we discussed bills, etc, she pays the general bills and pay the mortgage, she said that she couldn't afford to pay them now, fair enough she doesn't live there
I disagree with this, DCSUK. Is her name on the Note? On the Mortgage? Just because she decided to leave you, doesn't mean that her financial obligations end for the household. ESPECIALLY in the near-term.
One of the problems I've had in my marriage is that I always tried to be a pleaser, and make my wife happy. Well, I think you have to be NICE, but sometimes you can be TOO nice, and then you end up not respecting yourself, I think.
