Well, whether he has acknowledged it to himself or not, he knows I know. It has been pure silence from him (e-mail/text-wise, haven't seen him) since our e-mailing back and forth night before last/yesterday morning. The final e-mails were from me telling him essentially- gently- that he should really consider the consequences of telling people (about us) as more people will get involved... I left with a ...everything will be OK, text me if you need me, thinking of you and wishing you well... No response whatsoever, very different than usual. Hopefully he will one day confront himself but I think he is a long way from it. I do continue to take the high road and I am the better option, there isn't a competition there. She is very different than me, I would guess that he thinks his problems will be solved since she is the opposite of me. Well, I have continued to show him my kinder, gentler side... it's been absent for a while.
Regardless, yes, it is difficult to detach but I realize every day, more and more, how important it is for my own health and career. I can not let his foolish choices and justifications (they are on their way, no doubt) wreak havoc on my life. It is getting really old. 10 weeks is not a long time however after 9 years, so I am doing the best that I can I think. Will keep looking for ways to improve.
By the way... has anyone out there read Passionate Marriage? (david snarch- i think) The title is deceiving, you don't have to be in a relationship to get a ton out of that book. It really makes you confront yourself. I bit of a tough read but very, very worth it. He just wrote another book, coming out soon.
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
