Interesting comment. I wonder why you didn't say "I won't go into a store that you are coming out of that you say has a gunman shooting at customers inside, just because you say so"... Interesting that you chose the "jump into the lake analogy..
I'm more cautious about playing hardball here. If your wife is not playing such games, why would you be?
You know you are going to be alright no matter what happens, and you will roll with whatever comes, I think, so the question becomes has she re-committed to your marriage? Is she all-in?
I was thinking about the actor Patrick Swayze just now as an example of how there is no forumula for these things. Patrick Swayze was married to his wife in 1975 and until his death in 2009.
Patrick Swayze once said in an interview that he and his wife had fallen out of and back in love with one another three times that he could remember. I think he understood the dance that a marriage can be. Another famous quote of his was, "If you want to screw somebody up, give them exactly what they want". There's the nugget, I think.
If you let go, dropped the rope, and your wife is working hard at rebuilding your marriage, then it could be a mistake to move out. It doesn't mean you roll over and stop letting her work for the M because that would be a mistake too. You both have to be working for this M or it's time to let go, IMO.
You know your wife, she knows you, so where are you in the whole dance... honestly?
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Thanks for the warning. I will now draw my friend S&W go in and save innocent lives.
Sure go ahead. Sounds like the way you would try to handle such a situation. Doesn't surprise me a bit.. You want proof, you get proof and still do it your way... Exactly my point...
Sure go ahead. Sounds like the way you would try to handle such a situation. Doesn't surprise me a bit.. You want proof, you get proof and still do it your way... Exactly my point...
What's your way? Run away from raining bullets while people die and hope that someone else will diffuse the situation?
You have spent more time creating metaphors and insulting my partner than answering my initial question.
Since I am so predictable to you, guess what I'm going to tell you next.
No it is YOU that is insulting. Calling your gf your wife when you didn't make the EFFORT to actually do it is the insult to people like me.. I don't see you apologizing for insulting those who actually ARE married. I realize it is a "tecnicality" to a person who doesn't take marriage serious enough to actually do the work. Then gets offended when someone who points it out to them.
I am now going to bow out. I get it.. You want help if the help is in agreement with you. You didn't like what I said, the way I said it etc.. It didn't inspire you the right way and such..
My bad. I could have sworn that you wanted honest feedback. I gave it to you. I have learned from years of helping people that they don't always respond very well when they get what they say they want.
"Be honest with me" " I want honest feedback" "I post these things to get honest feedback and welcome it"
The person then hears some things they really don't want to hear....
"oh NO, don't tell me THAT" "don't say it like THAT" "you aren't very inspiring"
Here you go Pookie..
You are doing the right thing. You are one of the best Dbusters I have ever seen. She is falling back in love with you. Hang in there. Don't believe anything she says and only half of what she does. Keep up the good work. I am proud of you. It won't be long she will be wanting sex with you every night and be telling you how much she has always loved you. You have become an expert in only a few short months and it took me going on thirty years to learn half of what you know already. Good job.
As a vet full of wisdom here you are rapidly losing my respect.
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
No it is YOU that is insulting. Calling your gf your wife when you didn't make the EFFORT to actually do it is the insult to people like me.. I don't see you apologizing for insulting those who actually ARE married. I realize it is a "tecnicality" to a person who doesn't take marriage serious enough to actually do the work. Then gets offended when someone who points it out to them.
This is what I wrote on my very first post.
We have been together for 13 years. Although not married we both have considered our relationship as a marriage. We have no kids, but 4 dogs and a cat which to both of us ARE our kids. So for all intensive purposes I can use all of the terminology on this site.
It is none of your business if we were married in the town hall, church, synagogue, mosque or not at all. I have nothing to apologize to those who are "legally" married. I respect them as I would respect everyone who has made a commitment.
What is the "effort" of getting married? Apparently not much since half the marriages end up in divorce. Why are so many people here? Why do I deserve to be here any less than the married folk?
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
I am now going to bow out. I get it.. You want help if the help is in agreement with you. You didn't like what I said, the way I said it etc.. It didn't inspire you the right way and such..
I asked you a question and you still won't answer. Insult and intimidate is all you have done so far.
Originally Posted By: gucci loafer
Here you go Pookie..
You are doing the right thing. You are one of the best Dbusters I have ever seen. She is falling back in love with you. Hang in there. Don't believe anything she says and only half of what she does. Keep up the good work. I am proud of you. It won't be long she will be wanting sex with you every night and be telling you how much she has always loved you. You have become an expert in only a few short months and it took me going on thirty years to learn half of what you know already. Good job.
