We Fall Down, We Get Up

[ClingingToHope]

John, that's part of the reason I avoid those calls. I remember last year when we'd have those conversations and they were like sooo many we had when we were together ... and I'd start thinking 'why can't it work again.'

It seems words on a screen or on a phone doesn't have that affect for me.

BBJ, your ability to not stay mad at people is a true gift. I remember reading once that a key problem in many marriages is that one spouse or both spouses "keep score." They remember every little thing someone did wrong, file it away, let it build and then hammer the spouse with it.

I kept score in some ways and not in others. STBXW religiously kept score. At our one marriage counseling session, she mentioned something that made her mad on our fifth date.

Really? I can't remember what our fifth date was. I remember the first two and the first time we were together, but STBXW is like her mom -- an elephant who never forgets.