May go from Piecing to The Big D

[loweinsd51]

Are you under the impression that you just act like a man only when necessary and then insecure the rest of the time?

Becoming a "better man" means just that,
becoming a better man, letting go of your insecurities, accepting reality for what it is, being honest with yourself before you attempt to be honest with anyone else.

Yes...agree on the last four sentences

You are insecure about your wife leaving you,
having sex and affairs with other men (including a cousin).

It's a big one, definitely a doozie.

Analyze this feeling, this idea, this ugly truth that you seem to cling to so tightly.

Is this the woman she is?

Do you believe deep down that you're just counting the tick tocks on the clock till she cheats on you with another man?

No...deep down inside that's not how I feel

If you really believe that your wife is going to cheat on you because of what she may have done in the past, then you have a trust issue.

Yes I do have a trust issue

Is this something you can get over? Is she working to regain your trust, to build back the trust?

Yes to both.

Cell phone is unlocked...she let's me know her whereabouts...

I need to work my trust issue individually...I have an IC appointment today so that I can address this. Wife and I had some alone time last night and talked through some things.

She has real family issues...her mom passed 10 years ago and her dad has disowned her. Her uncle had a falling out over inheritance with the cousin that came to visit us and told his mother in law that my wife's cousin was the cause of our then divorce. I talked to her uncle and her dad in July and they both said that her cousin was a scumbag. That played into my reaction Sunday night as well.

So now who do I believe - my wife whom I've spent the last twenty years with or her uncle who is upset about inheritance?

On a positive note, slept in the same bed last night so I'll call that progress.