I appreciate the affirmations (np, not validations)
It looks as though our truck will be going away this week. W tried to get me to pitch in for the damage she caused but I refused. She used "unreasonable" and "childish". I said that it wasn't. She has been responsible for the damage all along. So she tried another tactic-pointing to older damage that predated the bomb. I informed her that damage was repaired legally AND the dealer was intentionally NOT dropping the appraisal as a favor (mostly to me). So that didn't work either.
The third attempt at my buttons was "then I guess I'll have to put this off as I can't afford it. I was hoping to do it before the next pymnt"
I said "Dealers run receivable deals all the time. They set up an account for you and you pay what you're short over the next 30-45 days. Do what you must but delaying will only cost you more unnecessarry payments"
She sends "OK" I then heard she called the dealer to set up Friday. YAY!!
However, as usual, when she doesn't get her way, she tries somethiing else to show how "determined" she is about the D. This time is was "need your (income statement0so I can finish the taxes. I only need 2008 since I claimed 2009 as 'Separated'" I said "Sure. I'll email it" She then asks "What's wrong?" I said "Nothing"
She then phones me to talk about it. It IS financial so I took the call.
She put D on the phone which was nice. She had her say "Love you, Daddy".
And then I "had to go".
I wish she knew what she was thinking so she could let me in on it. Whatever.
So, this brings me back to me.
I'm really tiring of this mess. I don't want to think about it anymore. I'm not really sure I know what I'm doing, either. I don't want to look at the board anymore. Don't feel like posting either.
There is so much nothing to say.
Other than sending off our taxes, all that is left is the Separation Agreement that I am meeting my L about this Friday.
Then I'll have a week or two of "digging for paper"-Oooh! Fun! and I'm ready to make a separation proposal.
Looking at how I can hold onto the house myself if she wants out now. She won't be able to pay off the debt that is her "going away present" so I'm coming up with alternatives- My Plan B.
Could make for an interesting November December. And she LOVES Christmas.
I'll have SO MUCH paper to pull from banks and stuff to prove MY side of this Agreement. She'll have two CC statements and a bank account statement. Her disclosure wil be easy. Mine; not even close. Dreading it.
But the agreement will be done and then I'll be waiting for her to push the button.
I won't push it. Unless I HAVE to because she goes Batchit OR I HAVE to becaue I want "INFIDELITY" listed as the grounds. And, frankly, I don't even care about that anymore.
Think I just want to get on with my life. I love her but I'm not gonna sit and spin while she continues to sleep with Goober.
I deserve better and I won't be able to meet "her" while I'm married. That's a rule for me.
I know this was all disjointed but I just wanted to get some stuff off my chest.
