Holy crap FFH. You need someone smarter than me. I wish Puppy were still around. I'll try to get R2C to look in on you too.
You have seen this in other sitch's before. I think that this IS typical WAW behavior. Now YOU must decide what YOU want.
I think that R's like this have a GREAT chance, but you have to be willing to work on it. You both have to understand what went wrong and vow not to do it again. in DR and other pieces I have read, it says that if you can get through this difficult time and move into acceptance of each other, that your relationship can be better than ever. You are now more AWARE of each other and your feelings.
My friend went through this and got back together 8 months after being separated and the D was finalized. He said that things are better than they ever were, but he still does have some trust issues. Dday also said his relationship now is better than before, but now there are new issues to deal with.
You probably need to go to MC and decide what things it is that you need to work on.
I don't know what else to tell you buddy, but take it slow no matter what your decision is. Reread DR. Make her work for it.
Best of luck to you. I will try to keep up and will be praying for you.
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