Right now he thinks he can have you on the side and as a crash pad (your home) while he goes out and dates/sleeps with other women. Note he said there were other women, not woman (Singular).
Hi Soleil,
I've been waiting all day to respond to your post. First of all, thank you for your words of support! You and everybody else posting on here means a heck of a lot to me. I think I might lose my sanity completely without your encouragement and understanding!
Now about what you wrote - the singular v. plural question. Mr. A made a typo in his email to me that made it totally ambiguous. He wrote:
"My dealing with XXX were true, thats exactly what they were. But yes, I am and have been pursuing other woman. Thats the truth. Sorry to disappoint you..."
Besides taking out the name, that's it exactly. Did he mean "another woman" or "other women"?
You all might think I'm over-analyzing, but that question is important to me -- yesterday my IC read the emails and asked me a related (and very hard) question: do Mr. A's intentions matter to me?
I am still thinking about where I come down on that. I've read parts of "Getting Past Your Breakup" and other similar books, and they all say that the person's intentions don't matter, it's how they treat *you*. I get that concept, but I'm not sure I'm totally on board.
Thinking about it with Mr. A, it does matter somewhat. If he's trying to rekindle with the idiot that was his affair partner, then let those two a-holes have each other. If not, then I'm more ambivalent about my feelings.
I suspect that he *is* trying to reignite things with her, although that doesn't necessarily mean that he's not womanizing others too. Anyway, I don't want him in my life if he thinks he's positioned us to compete for his affections. Forget that, I'm out!
Bottom line: Starting last Thursday, Mr. A and I are no longer intimately involved. At the moment, we aren't involved at all, and I don't want to have anything to do with him. That dumb b**** can have him!
But it is sooooo sad that we blew up again and it sucks totally, because I really have a lot more fun and interesting of a life when he's in it.
