You know Kissak, a blow up doll isn't a bad idea at this point. Your H can expend some of that hot air of his inflating it.
Agreed!
Originally Posted By: J3B
You know Kiss, if he has always been like that, and that's only something you can determine, that is borderline abusive.
If it is recent, it is BS, ignore it, dettach, you know all the tricks.
If it is long term as in who he is? It is STILL BS, but you maybe should re-evalute a why you believe this man should be in YOUR life, and what YOU get out of it.
I was thinking the exact same thing.
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
You guys crack me up! A blow up doll? I think that would be hiliarious for him to come home too, just waiting in bed for him the next friday night he goes out and stays till 3 am!
You know, I have made changes for me over the last 4 years, well, they were for him too. I have always worn make up, and fixed my hair nice. I have lost 70 pounds and feel great about myself!! He has not always been this way. It was only when he left 4 years ago that I heard all of this. ALot more of it have I heard over the last 2 months. I dont think anything would make him happy at this point. I really dont believe it has to do with me at all. He wouldnt be happy without me either...been there, done that. He needs to do alot of soul searching and work on himself BIG TIME!! I try to ignore the negative comments, but sometimes its hard to ignore.
And yes, I would like to make more money. Currently I am looking for ways to do that. I do run a business full time and work part time with my H...that leaves only the time I have with my kids for me to work. Trying to figure out what to do. Honestly, Im thinking of how to take care of myself and the kids, because if his attitude doesnt change, I will give him a choice, change it or leave. I will not live like this anymore.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
if you did change those things he would come up with 7 more to take their places.
You are wonderful. You are the same lady he came home to months ago. These are his issues, not yours.
So very true!
Thank you
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
And what if he says he will change? Oh...and is it HIS choice or YOURS?
Quote:
I will not live like this anymore
You can only live how YOU allow yourself to live.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I do not want my marriage to end, I think that is clear by how long I have stood. Im not asking for a divorce. If he leaves it will be by his choice, Im simply giving him that choice to change his attitude or leave until he does. I deserve to be loved and treated with respect. If he says he will change, well then show me, dont tell me! If he chooses to leave, I know I will be ok.
Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
k, No matter what happens, you've done all that you can do. You are right about one thing, you deserve to be loved and treated w/respect.
Take care of yourself and allow the man upstairs to work on your h.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
Last night was strange. H left kinda suddenly...said he had to go help a friend move a washing machine. This friend lived 30 min away. He studdered as he tried to tell me where he was going and why. Dont know if he was telling the truth or not. I can only assume. Weird thing was he went to kiss me goodbye, which he doesnt do anymore...then when he came back, he was more attentive to me, wanting to fix something that needed to be fixed for a while....I guess I should just appreciate that, but cant help but think he was feeling guilty for some reason. Im trying not to focus on these things, just journaling what I see.
Funny, he asked me about a friend of mine last night that is having problems with her bf...he tried to give me advice to pass onto her...relationship advice.
He told me that sometimes I make him want to drink...that sometimes as a stress reliever he will stop his truck on the side of the road and hit a tree with his fists....I asked if I made him that mad sometimes, he said yes. I asked how, by being TOO NICE to him? HE said SOMETIMES, yes!
OMG, I make him mad by being TOO NICE???? lol Maybe his sister was right....I need to be uglier to him.
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Kissak
"What time I am afraid, I will trust in thee." Psalms 56:3 M-37 H-37 S-10, D-15 M- 1993 First bomb- 12/23/06 Came and went too MANY times! Gone again 10-25-10
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
I received a phone call last night.... You'll never guess who this person asked for.
The OM. I [censored] you not.
They also made sure to repeat his first and last name as well.
Prank phone calls.... you gotta love it. I don't get it, three years has passed and she is back to FULL force crazy once again. Never thought that would happen. LOL!
For those of you with children that believe this will all be over after your D is final.... think again.
I will say that with time, the craziness no longer hurts, some of it is actually quite funny.
Thanks for the trip down middle school memory lane sweetheart.
