i think it's more of knowing that someone has your back .. and they want to make you happy. and you in turn want to make them happy and you have their back.
there is something so powerful about that.
Very true.
I remember telling people at work, friends who's wives I thought were controlling, and family how lucky I was to have the W that I did. Sure she had her moods sometimes but, all in all, we had a great relationship. We were always on the same page. She told me over and over how I could never get rid of her, I was hers forever. I felt the same way.
Problem is, I told this to everyone but her. Yeah, I told her here and there, but not enough and not in a way so she would really hear it and feel it.
I always had her back. She could do nothing, in my eyes, that would make me not love her and be there for her.
It's all maybe just a guy thing; We don't open up enough and let our W know how we really treasure them. It's a sad, hard lesson to learn. No one has my back, now. I have to be on my own, and I can handle it. It sure was nice having that support, now that I realize what I am missing.
Dan, I agree that the whole system is flawed. My W has talked about taking 40% of my pay. That's what she's entitled to going by the books. She wants to leave, she wants to party and leave the kids home with me. Great! Do it! I shouldn't be expected to pay for her to be free. If I have the kids 50% and so does she, why should I have to pay her anything?
She has already said she can't find anyplace big enough for her and 4 kids. The places that are, she can't afford. Not my problem. The kids have a home.
Sorry, that post was all over the place. Hang in there and fight for what's right!
