May go from Piecing to The Big D

[robx]

I kissed my cousin once, when I was 12. She was hot, we were at a family reunion in Baja. Creeped both of us out.

The idea of having a jacuzzi party with her now? Eww

So you've never hung with friends in a hot tub?
So you've never hung out with family in a hot tub?

Seriously?

I've been in a hot tub with cousins, friends, friend's gf's, friend's wives, etc. It's just a hot tub, when it's big enough, usually everyone joins in.

Is it possible you were drunk, loud and just plain obnoxious when she told you to go to bed?

[robx]

I think your reaction was warranted, but the delivery could have been different.

3 bottles of wine, 3 people, and everybody's delivery could have probably been better.

yup!

[pinhead]

Did you think she was going to get it on with the cousin in the jacuzzi while you slept? Did you actually imagine that? You had visions of your cousin stuffing your wife like a thanksgiving turkey?! Be honest and admit this.

Appearing insecure to a woman is as attractive as Rosie O'Donnell in a 2 piece size 2 thong bikini is to a man.

You acted extremely insecure.

Not the image I needed. TYVM.

[loweinsd51]

Not usually a loud drunk so no. Also, other family members told me things about her cousin that made me somewhat suspicious and with W coming off an EA my shields go up mighty quickly.

Yes...I do need to work through my insecurities and continue to do so.

[loweinsd51]

Did you think she was going to get it on with the cousin in the jacuzzi while you slept? Did you actually imagine that? You had visions of your cousin stuffing your wife like a thanksgiving turkey?! Be honest and admit this.

Yes...I'll admit I had that vision.

[loweinsd51]

So now how do I recover and get the R back on track.

[TimeHeals]

So now how do I recover and get the R back on track.

Stop drinking so much.

If you are flying a plane, and it's stormy out, do you want the pilot to be drunk?

[pinhead]

I kissed my cousin once, when I was 12. She was hot, we were at a family reunion in Baja. Creeped both of us out.

The idea of having a jacuzzi party with her now? Eww

So you've never hung with friends in a hot tub?
So you've never hung out with family in a hot tub?

Seriously?

Oh, I was just imagining it leading to more, like Lowe was worried about.

I have no problem with hot tubbing.

[pookie69]

I kissed my cousin once, when I was 12. She was hot, we were at a family reunion in Baja. Creeped both of us out.

The idea of having a jacuzzi party with her now? Eww

So you've never hung with friends in a hot tub?
So you've never hung out with family in a hot tub?

Seriously?

Oh, I was just imagining it leading to more, like Lowe was worried about.

I have no problem with hot tubbing.

She was only going for a soda.

[robx]

So now how do I recover and get the R back on track.

You shouldn't worry about the relationship,
seriously whenever I speak to guys on this site about this stuff, that's all I hear, "how do I get the relationship on track again".

Why would that matter if you still have to deal with larger issues like your self-esteem, your insecurity, being totally clueless about your wife, etc.

Don't you agree you have bigger issues to work on?