Been piecing and living together for the last month.
Things were going great for us until Sunday night. Her married male cousin (not blood related...3 kids) came to stay the night with us alone on his way back home. We had a great time and went through about three bottles of wine. We all go inside around 10:30PM and my W tells me "you should go to sleep now" and then she invites her cousin down to the apartment jacuzzi.
That didn't sit to well with me and I tried to explain that to my wife and in the process I went ballistic. I threw out F bombs, and a go to he!!. I started packing to go stay at my parents house. I eventually regained my composure apologized and then slept on the chair (her cousin was on the couch).
Also, her cousin does sensor installation in offices out of town and she has indicated that she would like to help with the installations to earn around $1000.00. Now, there is another person on the crew but the idea of my wife out of town with a non blood related male is uncomfortable at the very least.
Last night my wife said she needed to be alone and needed some space and said one of us should sleep on the couch. I obliged kissed her goodnight and told her I love her.
So today I will not text or call her to check in.
Were my initial objections warranted or was I just being insecure? And is this repairable?
LOL!
You are asking if you appeared "insecure"... ummm YA THINK!?
Maybe just a bit ;-)
Guess what, if she wants to cheat on you with another man, her cousin, the paperboy, the next door neighbor, the milkman, the town mayor, etc.
She will.
Did you think she was going to get it on with the cousin in the jacuzzi while you slept? Did you actually imagine that? You had visions of your cousin stuffing your wife like a thanksgiving turkey?! Be honest and admit this.
Listen and listen closely, - You can whine all you want, piss and moan, groan, cry, whimper, throw temper tantrums, etc.
This won't stop her from having an affair.
Appearing insecure to a woman is as attractive as Rosie O'Donnell in a 2 piece size 2 thong bikini is to a man.
You acted extremely insecure.
You have personal issues, issues that she can't help you with, issues that you will need to deal with before anything good will ever happen in this marriage or any other relationship.
