Early Parole from the MLC Chain Gang?????

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I guess I'm OK with this. I know not to expect anything else as she is still in A - I think.

CNS,
This is where the patience has to kick in, if you can handle the interactions with your W then I would continue as hard as it may be. Up until late July we were kind of doing things as a family but my W sent me an email stating that she did not want anyone to get the wrong idea, especially the kids. So I agreed with her and I stopped doing things with her. I would have continued because I was not getting any signs from her to stop.

I would keep up the interactions if you can, It doesn't sound like your wife is pushing for a D so I "assume" she is in a state of confusion (MLC=confusion....nickel Lance).

As far as her getting pissed about the nature of your R with her, let her spin. She is the one having the affair. If she tries to accuse you of spreading the word, I would use that as an opportunity to tell her that you are,

"standing for your marriage, and that you hope she will end her affair and work on the M, the more people that know the harder reconciliation will be and you do not want to interfere with that."

After that I would not engage her in conversation about it as it is a "lose/lose" situation.

Finding that "love" or "passion" for your W takes time. It did for me and even when I discovered it, it took more time to become part of my skin, as Mach would say.

I know you are at the one year mark from the bomb and while TIME is the constant in everyone's sitch the amount of TIME may differ.

Hang in there, be the best father you can be for your kids, be the rock, if you get down or tired go look into your kids eyes, thats what I do and that is about all the inspiration I need.

Cheers