Hi GW, I just saw your post, and had written on the other thread about when to "go dark". Thanks for your advice. I don't have enough to confront him. I certainly had enough to hint that people are catching on and he has run with that. He is incredibly guilt ridden it is so obvious. My H, not the one that is making these decisions, would never have taken the bait, NEVER! He is smart. This H is in such a fog... or wants to get caught... he now seems paranoid people are talking about him at work.
Anyway, thanks for the advice.
The goal, after collecting all of you advice on my current situation, is to do my very best to fill my mind with thoughts other than him. I need to truly move on in my head.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."