How to tell the kids

[DumpedforMIL]

I will have to read-up on yours when I get the chance. Maybe tonight.

my thread is long. really long. a lot of venting. i'm just one crazy a$$ b*tch.

Wow. That IS a long time.

not a day goes by where i wonder .. how the heck did we get to this point? i've never hated someone so much as to not say a word to them. not even a hello.

He can buy a home while a D is pending? Wow. He probably IS trying to stick it in your face.

i'm guilty of the same. i bought one shortly after he did.

We are all in for a MAJOR reduction in our standard of living and it makes me sick to see this coming after working so hard for 20 years to build everything we have.

those same words came out of my mouth. and all i got was "it's a small price to pay".

We will basically be starting over again in our mid 40's.

the way i see it, i'm picking up from where i left off. to say that i'm starting all over again, implies that i failed. i didn't choose this. i didn't fail. he did.

I don't mind paying for what my kids need, but the child support amounts seem a bit high IMO. Then there is Maintenance / Alimony. Why? She is choosing to leave. Let her pay her own way. She's even refusing to go back to work full-time!

this is unfair. i feel for you. i don't know why the lbs ends up paying for something they didn't ask for. what is her justification for the amount of cs she is requesting?

If you have to do one of those, choose C. You still need to detach and don't do anything to get yourself in over your head financially. Get the house you need and don't try to best him. Who cares what he does anymore? Just get what you deserve out of the relationship.

at first, i was going to walk away with a modest deal. then i found out about the fully loaded cadillac that he was getting and i changed my mind. i can't let someone like that off easy.

For me, I never wanted anything other than to be with my W. I WANT to take care of her and meet her needs, I just need to know what they are. I get pleasure out of helping people and my spouse would be no exception. We had an open checkbook. We did pretty much whatever we wanted to do. Maybe when life gets too easy, it is too easy to find other things to complain about.

i wanted to take care of my stbxh. i found someone who's happiness was more important than mine. when he was happy, i was happy (actually, i felt good because i was able put a smile on his face). i guess it's like you helping someone out. somewhere along the line, i stopped putting his happiness ahead of mine. he took notice and started on a negative rant. it just snowballed from there.

Hang in there U Sexy Thang. I know you are strong. I will read-up on your sitch, but I don’t know if I will have good advice to offer or not. I may not be so good at this myself.

i'm just mad. but for some reason, reading your response to me .. made the anger simmer down a bit.
my family is concerned about my mental state. and at first, i was too. i lost my appetite again. the anger is overwhelming.

i'm tired of being strong.

UST.