Thanks pinhead and john28. I guess I dread even thinking of yet another affair, as there were 3 already in our married life - 2 EA and 1 EA&PA, the one to which he refers now. He did move out abruptly, but said that he didn't come to this decision lightly, that he's been contemplating this for some time, even tried to provoke some fights hoping that I would drop the D bomb.

His words are so not matching his actions, not even in this very last period before leaving. True, when I look back hard, and analyze his words immediately after leaving, I find some of them very confusing, i.e. "why can't I be like some typical guys, beer drinking sports fan couch potatos who can have casual sex aside here and there and not make an issue out of that, don't even think about it, let alone having any guilt?"

When I think about it now, I might come to a conclusion that he is depressed and feel guilty because he doesn't like himself for what he is (again??) doing to me. I just don't know... seems that he spends most of the afterwork hours either at his mom's or at the dropzone skydiving.

Sky

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Me:48
H:48
M:23, T:27
DD 24
Bomb 1 07/27/10,IDLY,moved out without notice while I was at funeral
Bomb 2 09/30/10, "I can't return home, I want D"
Found out OW in picture since 07/09
D'd: 04/01/11