Very likley Sunny... Very likely .... Do your kids know yet?
Your son will very likley want in the loop
Did you take a look at MA yet?
That's the worst part is realizing not only is your spouse destroying his own family he's attacking another household at the same time... very unsettling!
OH: and last night - when it was all I could do to not blurt out all the new info to H that I know - guess what? He was being Mr. Nice Guy. Doing all these things for me, being affectionate... So NOW he decides to try and meet my needs??? Grrrr. I responded minimally. I have to get as much information as possible before I can make a better plan of action.
I'm tempted to msg OW on facebook and just simply ask whether or not she knows H is married with 3 kids.... probably not a good idea, but the thought is there.
OH: and last night - when it was all I could do to not blurt out all the new info to H that I know - guess what? He was being Mr. Nice Guy. Doing all these things for me, being affectionate... So NOW he decides to try and meet my needs??? Grrrr. I responded minimally. I have to get as much information as possible before I can make a better plan of action.
I'm tempted to msg OW on facebook and just simply ask whether or not she knows H is married with 3 kids.... probably not a good idea, but the thought is there.
He's trying to bribe you to soften his guilt.. don't accept any gestures he offers you. The only one you should be accepting is him ENDING contact with her.
Anything else is just going to make it easy for him to continue.
And yes, I'm sure he will be. I just know how mad he is going to be about it all. Of course, if that's what it comes to because H will not let go of OW, then the kids have to know why he's being shown the door.
As for H's gestures, I'm sure you're right. I've accepted them to a degree, I guess, because I don't want him knowing I'm still looking for more intel. Trying to be somewhat status quo for the moment. I didn't bend to them, just accepted to them - if that makes sense.
ok be sure to check your messages when you get approved, its usually pretty quick
Be very careful being casual while he's doing this.. it sends way the wrong message... And that's what he's watching for right now is how you are going to handle this ...
