Ok. As you can tell, it is a sore spot with me also. She wants to leave and says she doesn't care about the money, but she has no issues continuing to live off of me while refusing to put in her best effort to support herself and then continues to ask for more? UFB!
do you mind if i borrow your thread and vent a bit then?
like you, the last 10 months has been tough. i haven't spoken to my stbxh in almost 4 months.
i found out that he had purchased a new home. he's taking possession this friday. i also found out that he upgraded the house to the max. top of the line everything. probably his way of saying "you held me back from having the best in life. now that i'm free of you, i can do whatever i want .. whenever i want .. and have whatever i want."
our fight is over money. i hate fighting over money. i have not asked for anything but an even split. he wanted 80% of our assets.
i know this isn't a tit for tat thing .. but i am fighting the urge to do some stupid things. a) trash his new home. this could land me in jail but it's better than living. b) go head to head with him and go "bigger and better than his" with my home. c) take him for all he's worth in the separation agreement and drag this out for as long as i can.
i hate reading these boards and the advice given to men here. how women want men to lead. how women are need to feel secure .. emotionally and financially. that's a bunch of horse manure. men say that women want emotional and financial secure will turn things around and call you a money grubber for wanting those things.
i no longer believe that men want to take care of someone. men only care about their own needs and making sure they are able to take more than they need to give. when they feel they are no longer receiving more, they just cut and run with everything.
i am afraid to want emotional and financial security from a man because i believe that nobody will ever want to take care of me. all i ever wanted was for someone to say they wanted to take care of me. that it was better to have me in their life than to not have me.
