You're right about wanting the attention. Sometimes I think this is why I do it when he's with her, to take his attention away from her. I have also discovered that sometimes he shares these "private" texts with her and they mock me behind my back.
Me: 30/ H: 34 DD: 7 / DD: 4 Together 16 years, Married 10 He Moved Out: July 2009 / Came Home: January 2010 Left Again: October 2010