Ugh. Why do I do this? I know I'm supposed to just smile and nod but sometimes its soooo hard! I noticed I tend to do this when he is with, or going out with, his friend (AKA the OW - I believe to be an EA). My heart breaks when I know he's going to be with her. Last night he came home, shaved and showered and stated he was going to have Thanksgiving dinner with her family, yet I had to pull teeth to get him to have dinner with my family Sunday. I sent him a text telling him he needs to stop using me as his comfort zone and I will not be here for him anymore and I was sorry I was unable to be the happy upbeat wife he wanted due to his affairs (this is the 2nd EA he has had within our marriage). He still denies any attachemnt to this girl and claims he just feels sorry for her because she has no friends (maybe because she has no problem running around with married men). Yet when he's not with her he's texting her or instant messaging her. As I've stated in a previous thread, I believe its one sided as I don't believe she has any interest in him.
He says he can't live with my jealousy, but I think when parents and friends are also telling him his "friendship" is inappropriate, I have reason to be upset. He just backlashes at everyone saying what he does in his time is his business and we have no right to tell him who he can and can't be friends with. He honestly doesn't care if he loses his friends and family over this.
Also, I think I start arguments because its easier to let him go if I'm mad at him. I find it easier to stand my ground and not let him walk all over me. But then I see him or regret starting anything and just want to be with him.
Because of our argument he stayed at her place last night, so I know this just pushes him to her but I can't stop myself, I do it everytime.
Does anyone else start arguments on purpose? Why do I do this and what the heck can I do to stop?
Last edited by Jealousy; 10/12/1002:44 PM. Reason: spelling
Me: 30/ H: 34 DD: 7 / DD: 4 Together 16 years, Married 10 He Moved Out: July 2009 / Came Home: January 2010 Left Again: October 2010
