Originally Posted By: Punkin
To the best of my knowledge, he suffered no childhood trauma, just the trauma suffered in Iraq. Help is out there. He has no excuse for not getting it. He is just far to prideful and narcisistic to accept help.


------And this is the arrow------>

he shoots into your heart everyday.

He doesn't have an excuse in your mind or maybe anybody elses who can stand outside and look objectively at him.

He is engaging in self destructive behavior.

Do you know his demons?

Have you met them?

You may think you know what he is going through

I shared my feelings and story about my wife because I see where you are and I was in the same place.

There is help for my W too.

Until she realizes that the answer does not lie outside of herself but from within then she may continue to blame everyone else for her unhappiness, continue to self destruct...

It is painful to watch

and

It made me ANGRY.

I tmade me angry until I decided that I had to let go and let GOD.

It is not that she doesn't love ME enough. It is that she doesn't love herself enough to make that choice right now.

How would you want to be loved?

When you are sitting in a rocking chair on the front porch?

Sh!t that is easy....

What if your life is a bad dream you can't wake up from and you just need someone there but you don't even know you need them or want them there because your in a bad dream.

But when you wake up

The person who said they would love you always was there.

There is a lot of time between now and then Punkin. You can't watch him have his nightmare...

You will burn out and be resentful.ANGRY.

This thing will make you explore a different meaining to love. a deeper meaning if you will.

It becomes not what is returned from your H to you. But what you decide to give

For you and you only. With no expectation of its return.

And that has to come from inside you.

That will calm your anger. That is the only thing I CAN promise you here Punkin.

THAT kind of love has the power to heal.

YOU and your family.

That kind of love works miracles.

He may never wake up. Your M may never be saved.

But you and your family can be by what you decide.

My two questions are related as you can see maybe?

What does love mean to you?

Why are you standing?


My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am