I am struggling with one question, maybe thats only my desperation speaking out of me: even when he dropped the D bomb#2 12 days ago and so firmly sticked to divorcing me is the only option, he still plays this game of not being able to come over here and pick up his stuff. Yet another time he asked for only what he needs at the moment (a jacket and shirts).

I feel like he has a total control over situation and it hurts. Should I allow this or just tell him to be a man and come over to pick all his belongigns if this is what he decided, and stop stringing me around? Is setting firm boundaries in such a situation counterproductive? I still can't make myself do it.

Sky

Me:48
H:48
M:23, T:27
DD 24
Bomb 1 07/27/10,IDLY,moved out without notice while I was at funeral
Bomb 2 09/30/10, "I can't return home, I want D"
Found out OW in picture since 07/09
D'd: 04/01/11