How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[ericmsant2]

Great Post Bro...

Great post!

Amg,

We were a TEAM, right?

You tell me. Where you a team. Are you a team now?

but I don't think all "forgivenesses" are created equal. For example, asking for forgiveness for raising your voice or being reactive (even if for many years) is to me much different than asking for forgiveness for creating a complete life of lies, injecting illegal drugs, etc. Just like the punishment is different say for theft than it is for murder, legally.

I guess it depends on the person. Here is another way to look at it. If someone would ask me what would be more painful...knowing that my wife is fu*king someone else (aka theft of the woman I love) OR stabbing me in the heart. How would I answer that? Well if you would have asked me when I found out that she was with another man I would have said please stab me in the heart.

I guess my point is..Hurtful things are hurtful things. Period.

Does the pain you caused someone albeit unintentionally and less painful that something that is done intentionally. Two wrongs do not a right make. Forgiveness, as Mr Grit pointed out is really for YOU.

grace of God

Grace is a wonderful thing. In the Christian faith we thank God for his son that died on the cross even as we were sinners.

And maybe I now see that I was a fool to do that--look what it has earned me.

What has it earned YOU?

Has it earned you a dysfunctional R?

Has it earned you a cheating spouse?

OR

Have you allowed things in your life that are not healthy?

Was that your H fault or yours?

What is healthy?

What is commitment?

When is enough enough?

It is enough when you say it is and understand the reason why you say it is.

Amg, I am not telling you to call it a day. Nope.

I am telling you to forgive, heal, grow, work on yourself and then make a choice from a place of peace.

That choice is yours to make. Not your H's and not mine.

Only yours.

God Bless,
Eric