How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[Truegritter]

TG made a comment about "finding out who YOU are in the face of adversity."

I think you understand what I mean by what you just said.

There are no Pre-drawn conclusions here.

I meant what I said, and I said what I meant

you only control yourself 100%.



You can't rescue.

You can't save.

And if there is dysfunction in your M you HAVE allowed it.

Your choice should be based in who you are. If you walk away without knowing that you are destined to repeat it.

If you are someone who no longer accepts this dysfunction in her life then do not accept it.

Do not blame H.

His choices are his.

Yours are yours.

Adversity challenges us. We either grow or we regress.

And

Forgiveness is for you not for someone else.

It is the gift you give yourself.

It is a healthy progression amg. You might not agree with his choices,

and you won't be part in enabling them any longer,

but recognizing his right to make them can help set you on the path of healing and forgiveness.

I am not trying to sell you anything I don't believe myself.

My own experience. Am I done? No.

I am just not. I think I will know when.

But

I know that if I go it will be for my own reasons and not because of some choice my W made or didn't make.

It will be for me just as my choice to stand is for me.