The only thing that I would add is that sometimes by GAL, we can serve as a role model to our spouse to let them see that change is possible even for them. As you point out, if your GAL makes you interesting to your spouse it can also become a magnet that helps make them want to follow you.
>43 years of marriage--My wife and I are now closer than we have been in decades. I believe that my SSM is over.
