How much interaction do you have with H? I know it's tough with three kids who need to see their dad, but I would recommend cutting back on the contact as much as possible.
And HIH is right, DB is about you! Sure it's a strategy that might win back a wayward spouse, or revitalize a troubled marriage. But it's really about learning about yourself.
I see your advice to others, and like me, you're good at applying it to everything but your own situation!
Find a sitter. Go out at night, do something fun. Don't let yourself sit around feeling unloved! You have three children who love you, and it's your H's loss that he's not enjoying life with you.
