It's a difficult one. Once it came out in the open in my sitch my H visibly enjoyed having two women fighting over him- made him feel really wanted. That could have gone on indefinitely apart from my mental breakdown from the stress, at which point a psychiatrist had to be called in and he told my H he had to make a decision. Once it became public OW was pushing as she no longer wanted to be a secret or seen to be 'second place' and she shot herself in the foot being so pushy when I was so obviously devastated. I really believe that because I had previously been unable to convey to my H how important he was to me, my breakdown was a shock to him and also showed him how much I cared.....which he needed to see.
Since he has told me how grateful he is that I 'fought' for him.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
