That is exactly where I am right now... and the past few days. Definitely his loss, not mine. I have grown from this experience in unimaginable ways (at least from my prospective on myself) and he is still in the same rut he has been in for the past several months.
He is doing this to himself. It is very sad to watch, but he needs to grow too and I can't do that for him.

The 180 is killing him... I have been SUCH a reactive person in our marriage... he has no idea what to do. LOL!

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."