Hello Pinhead, Just following your story. Your wife ML with you and you're pretty sure she enjoys it and wants to. That's surely a good thing? I'm surprised at what she says about kissing, though. You've certainly come a long way from things as they were at the start. I hope you two can piece things together. She sounds to me like one very confused person. the DB book says not to set too much score by what's said by the "unloving" spouse, personally I'm clinging to that and watching the actions. If she felt no attraction at all for you and given that she's been wont to tell you in clear terms what she's feeling (at the minute), would she have been a willing partner?
Wants to or wants to...?? She's willing, but not initiating. Wants to because she wants to make me happy, wants me happy so I stay. Complicated as can be. One confused puppy. Sometimes I feel like a lawyer, parsing everything too much instead of just living in the moment and not worrying about everything. But then I remember (pre-Bomb) how I ended up ignoring so much going on around me with my W.
