SO: if detaching (et al) is best, doesn't that mean asking him to leave? I don't see how I can live my life separately with him here. It's too hard. Well, at least today it is. We've basically been doing that for several months now anyway, all things considered, except the joint family things.
Again IMHO do not force him to leave. Because then it is YOUR fault. MLC'ers want to have the LBS take the blame for their faults. Do not go into that trap. If he leaves he may NEVER come back because you forced him to go. If he wants to leave on his own then you can not stop him.
Originally Posted By: SunnyD
Do I allow the cake eating???
NO! You do not respond to him. Being with a live in is tricky, but it can be done. Stay as dark as possible.
You already have some experience with it, I suggest that if he comes into the room you are in then leave. Hey, you have to play each day by ear. But I would not be providing for any of his "needs" unless you absolutely have to. At least not while he is still in replay. Once the EA is over, that might be different.
