Thanks, Lance...and yes, I remember "meeting" you. :-) (My son has had football games the last few weeks.)
I don't really have anyone to expose to in this situation, so exposure really isn't even an option. Well, except to our kids - who already know about the first indiscretions - for better or worse. At this point I do not plan on telling them of the latest. Would they hold his feet to the fire? Yes...at least, my S16 would and D19. However, that is not their job, of course. (And for the record, was not my intention for them to know about the earlier stuff, but they did find out.)
Anyway, H is not close to his family. No one at his work would really care - I don't know any of them anyway. No idea if OW is married or not. My family would never forgive H.
SO: if detaching (et al) is best, doesn't that mean asking him to leave? I don't see how I can live my life separately with him here. It's too hard. Well, at least today it is. We've basically been doing that for several months now anyway, all things considered, except the joint family things.
How do I respond when he is "trying"? For instance, last night he went and got me coffee, rubbed my feet... held my hand... stuff he has not done in a long time. That crap sucks me in - makes me think he's truly trying. Yet, my brain says, "No, he just wants you to keep letting him cake eat!" Do I allow the cake eating???
