Sorry to hear about the fiasco...it's so funny you decided to wait in the car- classic! :
This was an issue between D and mother, my presence was not required and, in fact, I've learned can often be a bad thing. I'm not there to act as referee between her and her kids, I did that for a long time when we were together. Always trying to be the peacemaker. Now, she deals with the holes she digs by herself. If the kids need an ear or advice afterwards, I'm available and they usually discuss their issues about Mom with me. If I feel it would be helpful, I advice them to talk to their mother and we can talk about what to say. If wife wants an ear or my input, I'll give that too but she doesn't ask and I don't offer. At times I used to phone her up and say my piece about her behaviour but then she'd slam the phone down in my ear. I don't bother anymore. The funniest one was when she was mad at D16 for hanging up on her. I phoned wife back to discuss the situation and she hung up on me! So I phoned her back again and told her I don't appreciate being hung up on either and, guess what, she hung up on me.
I phoned wife back to discuss the situation and she hung up on me! So I phoned her back again and told her I don't appreciate being hung up on either and, guess what, she hung up on me
It's like musical chairs- you were supposed to keep going. And for good measure I would've called her back and without saying anything hung up on HER like 5 times! that'll teach 'em
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
I phoned wife back to discuss the situation and she hung up on me! So I phoned her back again and told her I don't appreciate being hung up on either and, guess what, she hung up on me
It's like musical chairs- you were supposed to keep going. And for good measure I would've called her back and without saying anything hung up on HER like 5 times! that'll teach 'em
It could be a new GAL activity for me! Thanks Romeo, I'll call her right now.
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Yesterday I had my second Thanksgiving dinner in as many days! I've mentioned before that wife and I had a group of friends who have kids the same age and we basically have raised our kids together, go on vacation together etc. Wife and I were invited over for dinner and I said I'd go. My kids were really looking forward to going and they like me to come to. Wife decided that she wasn't coming due to work to do, so it was just me and the kids. Another of the wives couldn't come either due to illness so it was one wife and the three husbands and the kids. We had a wonderful dinner and get together, I really enjoyed myself. We talked about the cottage trip last summer, I was asking how they liked the new cottage resort they went to. They are insisting that I come next year. It's great to feel wanted and missed but...well, you guys know the score. Today it's back to the work grind after a busy but fun weekend. Btw, on our way to our friends, which is a 45 minute drive, I put on a CD of the Bee Gees greatest hits and D16 and I were singing in a high nasal pitch having a great time. D13 was not having a great time in the back seat. I still say the cure for depression is to put on the Bee Gees and sing along with them in as nasal a tone as you can. You just can't be depressed when you're doing this, it's not possible!
Bee Gees- did they sing other songs besides Stay'n Alive? j/k
Me: 35|WAW: 38|D: 6yo | http://tinyurl.com/2dxx7m6 Feb 2006, left, came back in two weeks Aug 2006, left again Apr 2007, filed for divorce Dec 2007, reunited Mar 2010, moved out, filed again
Tomorrow is the third anniversary of my separation. Three years ago tomorrow the moving truck pulled up to my home, loaded my furniture and changed my life. I haven't spent a lot of time thinking about it, maybe I'm too fixated on my upcoming Colonscopy/Gastroscopy on Tuesday, I don't know. I do know that I'm in a place where I don't want to be with wife but I have a hard time seeing myself with anyone else either. R's take time and energy and I just don't think I have that for another person in my life right now. Sometimes it's hard to come home to no one but a turtle, I wonder "is this it?". I've tried to cut down my running around to avoid my alone times. I'm doing bible study each night, I'm following a plan where you can read the bible in a year. I do meditation each night, even when I have an activity to go to. I'm trying to face those alone demons. My wife and family were my rock! No matter what happened in my life, that would be there. But, three years ago that was ripped away from me. I lost my wife, my home and half the time with my children. My rock crumbled. I still carry fear about being alone. What if something happens to me, who will be there? Can I trust anyone in my life to really be there for me when I need them? I trusted my wife implicitly, never dreaming I could ever be betrayed, I was wrong. My kids are my greatest blessing but I still live with a lot of anxiety about where my life is heading. Before, much of it was set, it was solid. Now, I'm 52 and starting all over or that's how it seems sometimes. Is it an exciting adventure? Sometimes, but at others it feels like a sad failure. Anyway, just thinking out loud...I'm done.
