After the initial call, text, talk from the WAS stating they wanted to work on M, How long did it take them to want to talk about R?
I know there's no "time" constraits or such on anything.
I thought W would have reached out to me by now especially after she said we should talk after she reads the SSM.
It's been 3 weeks. IDK, just thinking.
Any thoughts?
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Don't chase a cat. The cat can sense if you are pursuing, then they go hide.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Thanks Coach, I will not bring R talk up. I will just wait for her to come get me.
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Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
I find my self googling some of your replies at least once a week. lol
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
Tell me if I'm wrong here, but I think I sense some anxiousness from you. Understandably so. She finally shows some sign of wanting to work on things and it feels as if you have finally made a small breakthrough.
I am nowhere near this point in my sitch, but can feel myself thinking the same thing. Patience is your friend at this point, I think. I know you want her to call like yesterday. I would, too.
IDU, You would be correct. I am a little anxious. I want to move forward and put this past year behind me. I do envision a better life(M) in my future.
Another possible baby step from her was asking me if I was going to family night at D5 school this Friday. If there is any fuction that deals with my kids, I will be there. So I reply: Yes I will be there.
Slow and steady with no expectatons
Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
To answer your question. First time W said she wanted to "try" working on M...never did talk R, it lasted a week and then she stopped wanting to work on it. Second time she wanted to "try"...same as first. Third time (after I let go), it was almost immediately and it wasn't trying it was using words like saving/rebuilding/fixing. She truly had made up her mind and had let go of OM and wanted the M/R back. And we continue to talk about it every week. I won't say every day, but multiple times a week...
How does that apply to you...listen to Coach. She has to really want this, and as MWD would say, you need to be the best option.
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11
