Well, I am guilty of some pleading and reasoning, but I stopped that very night. I was being positive and supportive in the past two months and thought it would be a bit easier for him when he starts therapy and that he would gradually come to recognize that its not me or our M that is the problem, but other issues, that, of course reflect on our R too.
Now I am giving him space, don't initiate contact, but try to DB and do 180 as much as I could being separated. And honestly, I am grateful for not having any D talk in the last 10 days, as my agenda is full ( I own and run a company and have to be able to work), but my head is still spinning.
Yes, I have pets, 3 cats and a bunny, they are my joy. I have few good friends too, they have been a tremendous support, but too often they drain me by trying to convince me that I should kick him out of my life and get some peace for me finally.
Relationship with my MIL, well, that's a bit complicated. But to make long story short, this time, and I have to say it was the first time in our married life, she approached me and told me that nothing can happen to me, I am a member of the family and I will always be regardless of what he decides. She cried with me, but stays firm that she is not going to interfere, but will be here only to support and help. She is 70, in cancer remission now, and I'm sure this is not what she needs. However, I appreciate her gesture.
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Me:48 H:48 M:23, T:27 DD 24 Bomb 1 07/27/10,IDLY,moved out without notice while I was at funeral Bomb 2 09/30/10, "I can't return home, I want D" Found out OW in picture since 07/09 D'd: 04/01/11
